He surprised you with a Spa Day…Your hair is done, your hands and feet are sparkling. The professional makeup artist has your face flawless. The dress you have been eyeing is now hanging up and in a few minutes, you will reach for it. Not to mention the shoes that are gonna be the envy of every women you walk past….He had your favorite flowers and chocolate delivered and left you a voicemail going on about how much he loves you and cannot wait to see you this evening. You have the biggest smile on your face you couldn’t wipe off even if you tried! Butterflies in your stomach and chills on the back of your neck. Dinner was amazing, and when he held you in his arms while dancing, it felt as if your feet weren’t touching the floor. Towards the end of the night there was a walk on the pier as you watched the sunset together and he looked in your eyes to tell you he loves you……this is LOVE!!
(Insert the scratching of the record here)
Reality check!!!!! Not that any of that is not beautiful and it can definitely be an amazing experience. But for sure it is not the TRUE definition of love. This is where we get ourselves in trouble. It’s not the whole package! What about when we are acting unlovable? No one prepares us for the true definition, so when we are not experiencing the above, we don’t call it love. How bout this….
He forgot your Birthday and you had to remind him. He didn’t save up any money for your gift so now you have to wait until next pay day. Not to mention this is the second year in a row that he has done this. His car broke down again and now you have to go pick him up and pay for the repairs. When you get home you have to cook dinner because he hasn’t a clue on how to cook and the least that can happen is a good meal by the end of the night.
(Keep in mind this can go both ways ladies)
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NLT)
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
Real love is determined to remember to be patient and kind during what can be irritating times. To watch what you say and how you say it. You will be selfless and know that it can’t always be your way and things happen. You will not throw a list of wrong things up in each others faces. Let it go! You will not say “That’s what you get for not remembering, your car broke down!” What you will do is remember that God is Love. This is how He loves us even when we don’t deserve it. You will pray and be thankful for what God is doing with the relationship. In that process you will not give up or lose faith. You will always be hopeful that things will get better to include you because you are in this as well and when you do, you will endure through every circumstance.